Having premature baby

Allot of mums and dad do need some education about premature birth.

I see everyday Women complaining that they want there baby out at 33 weeks or 34 weeks and wanting to ask their hospital can they deliver baby early. It did annoy me so much but then I realized they do not understand what we have been through. they do not know what its like spending every single day for 2 months or 6 months or a year in the NICU or SPECIAL CARE. They dont understand things our babies go through on a daily basis.

 I would love to go full term and have a normal pregnancy but I didnt, I ended up spending a 7 weeks in the NICU with my daughter who was 8 weeks early. She couldn't breath or feed very well, She was on C-pap for 7 days then on oxygen for 7 weeks! she had a feeding tube for 7 weeks also until the day before she was released. They where up and down moments wonderful moments. There was a point my daughter couldnt breath and went blue. or she didnt feed for a whole day which meant not getting home sooner!

There was also a young baby across from my daughter every time she took a feed she would stop breathing. Lots of nurses crowded round her with oxygen that girl survived, there was another beautiful little girl who weighed a bag of sugar. she sadly lost her life. made me cry every single day and I still think about that little girl she was soo strong.

One little boy was also in the NICU for 8 months. he had lots of breathing problems couldnt feed and also had problems with his kidneys, he finely got out when my daughter got took down to NICU,

Theirs so many stories I can tell you, that would make you cry.  I do not understand why anyone would want there baby to be early. Your baby being premature has risks, LOTS of risks, My daughters lungs didn't Develop and that was one of the risks she had! She also got bloods took every single day! They squeezed out the blood from her foot making her scream and cry it wasn't pleasant. And also seeing my child being sick because she had to get medicine every single day. Also seeing horrible tubes on her face and wires all over her body, not being able to touch her, was horrid. seeing my baby in pain and fighting for her life was terrible I couldn't function Properly.

I got hit with the baby blues which is awful, Also NO FAMILY could touch my daughter only Me and my partner and it was hard for others to. I got discharged from hospital and I cried at home at night wondering how my daughter was, I called at 2AM because I was pumping breast milk she was doing good. Everyday and night for 7 weeks I done that. I was in a state.


Is this what you really want? I defiantly didn't want this I wanted to go full term. but in the end she came home finely she is now a healthy happy 1 year old, but not all stories end like mine. So please think have a good long hard think on what you really want. months on end in the nicu? or a healthy term baby you can take home straught away? Please think before you speak. As US neonatal mums do get upset when people moan and want their babies out very early. Please do some research before you say things like these. Go to your midwife get more input on it. as it is a horrible experience.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog.

Kind regards
former Neonatal mummy.